Five weeks of field work has ended. On this last day, our
conversation with our sahabat went deeper. Family issues. She is disappointed
with her daughters. As she talked, her eyes went watery. Seeing her, my
heartache. I promise to myself that I will never ever let my mom to go through
this.
When I was younger, I read something that talk about the
relationship between parents and children. If not mistaken, it categorized the
relationship into four types and I just remembered two. One says that children
are parents’ debtors. Another says that children are here to repay the debts
the owe to their parents. Not long ago, I saw something similar that says
everyone around us is our debtors. So, if these were to be applied to my
sahabat’s case, it seems that the children are her debtors. Whenever I see
someone having a good life or a bad one, it makes me thinking what they have
done in their past life or current one.
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| For her. |
As I was discussing with my group mate, Joy about what our
sahabat’s family issues, a Chinese saying came to my mind, “慈母多败儿”. The direct
translate of it will be: a kind mother has a failed son. Our sahabat did scold
her daughters but to what extend? Obviously she is not stern enough with her
daughters. To some people, who do not know how to be grateful and appreciate
what they have, some heavy punishment should be given to them. It may look mean
to that person but that’s the way to make a person grow.
Since this is the last week of this project, I printed a
photo that we took with our sahabat during our first meet up, framed it and
gave to her as a memory. Everything comes to an end but memory lasts.
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| Hope that this will not be our last photo with her. |
I am grateful for:
- being born to a financially stable family
- having a great parents who fulfilled all my needs.
- the guidance Ms Kelly and Mr Sam provided to us throughout these whole module.
- my allergies being taken into account.
- a bunch of group mates who are super cooperative and helpful.
